Bob (a hypothetical client made up from anecdotes) is frustrated that as much as he tries, he can’t stop the intrusive thoughts that come from a lifetime of poor choices and looking at things he shouldn’t. Carol also struggles with the negative thoughts that keep her home instead of living life and ...

If we don’t have hope of things changing, we stop trying to improve. If we did that with our homes, we would be living in derelict housing and get physically hurt by the disrepair. The same thing is true for our relationships, our health, our hearts, and our minds.  If we despaired of our health imp...

We tend to view the goal as the goal, but in God's economy, the process is the goal.  It's not about what we are doing; it's about who we are becoming in the process. Who you want to be is not going to just happen. Like creating a masterpiece of a savory dish or sweet dessert, we need to be gatherin...

What’s in my control…and what’s not. How to let go of it?!

We try to plan a project so it will come out well, schedule meetings to last as long as they need to get the work accomplished, or determine travel plans to get where we want to go in a timely manner. But then! The traffic, the lazy co-wor...

How to Kill the ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts)

Have you ever opened your cupboards and discovered that the marshmallows you were going to use for s'mores ended up being covered with ants?! Yuck! That happened to me yesterday…So what would you do? Just close the cabinet door and pretend they are...

When we want to be happy, content, energetic, empathetic…when we want great communication and close relationships, we need to look at the situation from a different perspective. I haven’t found a better way than to reflect on what my thoughts lead me to feel! Solomon shared that as you think, so you...

Influence: the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself.

Influence and persuasion are both about affecting the thoughts or actions of others, but they differ in their approach and duration. Influence is a subtle, gradual pro...

"They need to make better choices!" Carol, my (anecdotal) client continued, "The people I love most are driving me crazy with the stupid decisions they make!"

Does this sound familiar? Are your friends constantly choosing to leave their wits behind to engage in activities that drag them down rather...

The struggle is real! When thinking about a project or activity, have you ever sat there lacking the energy and willpower to get started or finally finish it? Maybe you have a soft deadline and hate how you procrastinate until the last minute and then feel stressed. What if you could be present and ...

What’s your definition of Peace? To create peace, meditate or journal on these:

• ANCHOR- This is about grounding yourself in the present moment. When life feels out of control, you need to find something steady to hold onto—whether it’s your values, your purpose, or even just your physical posture
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Boundaries are the ultimate burnout shield. This picture of the Carcassonne ramparts are a physical example of good boundaries. Our own boundaries are not just about saying "no" to others—it's about saying "yes" to what truly matters for your energy, focus, and well-being. Burnout often creeps in be...